Why do you Need Money?

Over the years I’ve discovered there are four primary reasons why people need money. Sure, you can certainly take the boring, dumb view of this and say this is a stupid question. But we’re all better than that. Money is man-made. Mankind decided that we needed it, and we’ve decided they were right. Surprisingly enough though, we’ve evolved from this original decision, and individually, we need money for a few standard reasons.

1. To makeup for the past- You may currently have a very healthy, grounded view of money, but your past may not. Unfortunately, until your past obligations are satisfied, your past wins. These obligations come in many forms: debt, judgements, garnishments, collections, and even over-commitments to mortgages, student loans, and car loans. If you have ever said to yourself something like “I would never have paid this much for a house, if I had it to do all over again,” then you need money because of that past decision. As daunting as this realization is, it’s not the end of the world. Once you clear the past, then you can firmly form your money relationship with the present and the future. This should be your aim. Hell, it’s just how it works. It’s a process.

2. To fund a dream or lifestyle- I’m not hating the player, or the game. If you need money in order to fund a chosen lifestyle or dream, cool. You just need to make sure this doesn’t turn into funding your past. Have you always wanted to open a bakery? Awesome, use money to do this. And make me some donuts. Have you always wanted to live in NYC? Cool. Do it. Have you always wanted to send your kids to private school? Cool. Public schools are better, but cool. Half-kidding.

3. To fund a habit- Financially speaking, is a shopping habit any worse than a drug habit? Is a dining-out habit any worse than a drinking habit? Is an over-gifting habit any worse than a gambling habit? Again, financially speaking, I don’t think any of them are different from each other. Addiction is addiction. I’d love to tell you about the two worst clinically addicted individuals I’ve ever come across, but their spending habits make me uncontrollably sad. Seriously. Why is your insistence on spending money on something trivial, okay? It’s your money, feel free to do what you like. But the reality is that you need money because you have a jones for an item or experience that has taken ahold of your sensibility. This is why YOU need money.

4. It’s simply a byproduct of work- A job’s main purpose doesn’t have to be the generation of income. Income can simply be the byproduct of work. In my opinion, this renders money worthless. I believe this to be a good thing. I understand how weird this sounds. If you understand this, then you understand it. If you don’t, you have yet another reason to think I’m a jackass. There are some very centered individuals both objectively wealthy and not, that feel as though money is silly. I hope to get to this point in my life. It takes a tremendous commitment to cause and purpose to render money worthless. Wealth alone, even vast wealth, doesn’t get a person to this point. It’s a combination of reduced financial obligations, a purpose-driven life, and effortless frugality.

Why do you need money?

MRS AYO: A MULTI-TEMPERAMENTAL PERSONALITY

MRS AYO: A MULTI-TEMPERAMENTAL PERSONALITY

          Mrs. Stella Mojisola Ayo, Principal of Lagos State Junior Model College, Kankon, Badagry is one of the best leaders that have traversed the Lagos State Educational Sector. This is as result of her multi-temperamental personality.

          Undoubtedly, the concept of temperament influences everything one does:  the sleep habits to study habits and through eating style to the way one gets along with other people. In fact, there is no other influence in a person’s life that is more powerful than ones temperament or a combination of temperaments.

          There is no doubt that knowing ones temperament enables you to analyse those of others for the purpose of all-round potential maximization rather than for condemnation or stigmatization.

          WHAT TEMPERAMENT IS?

          Before I begin to analyze and explore Mama’s various temperaments. It is essential to explain what temperament is. Temperament is the combination of traits we inherited from our parents. Temperament resides somewhere in the minds or emotional centre known as HEART. From that source it combines with other human characteristics to produce our basic make up.

          As its residual in Mrs. S. M. Ayo, Temperament is not the only influence that defines her behaviour. Her early home life, education and motivation all have powerfully influenced on her action and disposition toward life.

          For the purpose of clarity, I will briefly distinguish between temperament, character and personality.

          As explained above temperament is the combination of inborn traits that subconsciously affect man’s behaviour. These traits are arranged genetically on the basis of nationality, race, sex and other hereditary factors.

          These traits nevertheless, are passed on by the genes. It is for this reason that some psychologists suggested that we get more genes from our grandparents. That could account for the greater resemblance of some children to their grandparents than to their parents. Maybe this accounts for stature, movement and oral control of mama that are nearly masculine.

The alignment of temperamental traits is just unpredictable as the colour of eyes, hair or size of body.

CHARACTER: is the real you. The Bible refers to it as “the hidden man of heart”. It is the result of your natural temperament modified by childhood training, education, basic attitudes, beliefs, principle and motivation.

PERSONALITY: is the outward expression of ourselves, which may or may not be the same as our characters, depending on how genuine we are.

KINDS OF TEMPERAMENTS: Hippocrates, the father of Temperaments study divides temperament into four categories over twenty-four hundred years ago. He named them SANGUINE, CHOLERIC, MELANCHOLY and PHLEGMATIC. Because of space I will not go into details on the characteristics of the four temperaments, I will however pick those that are relevant to our great mother as she cuts across the four temperament and those she evolved another temperament known as SANCHOMEPHLEM. Please come with me.

          Mama picks from SANGUINE the following temperaments; she is a warm, buoyant, lively and enjoyable person. She is so receptive by nature. Her external impressions easily find their way to her heart, like other sanguine, Mama has an unusual capacity for enjoying herself and usually passes on her fun-loving spirit.

          She is a fascinating story-teller and her warm emotional nature always helps one to relay the experience as she tells it.

          Mama never lacks for friends. She can genuinely feel the joys and sorrows of the person she meets and also has the capacity to make him/her feel important, as though he/she were a very special friend.

          From choleric temperamental point of view, Mama is hot, quick, active, practical, strong-willed, self-sufficient and very independent.

          She is decisive and opinionated, finding it easy to make decisions both for herself and other people.

          Mama thrives on activities. She does stimulate her environment with endless ideas, plans and goals. She does not engage in aimless activity, for she has a practical, keen mind, capable of making sound, instant decisions or planning worthwhile projects. She does not vacillate under the pressure of what others think, but takes a definite stand on issues.

          Mama is not frightened by adversaries. In fact they tend to encourage her. Her dogged determination usually allows her to succeed where others have failed. There is no impossibility in her dictionary. Her strong belief in God makes things work in her favour.

          Picking from the melancholy temperament, you find her very analytical, self-sacrificing, gifted and a down-to-earth perfectionist. Mama seldom pushes herself forward to meet people, but rather she lets them come to her. She is highly diligent and dependable.

          Disappointing experiences make her reluctant to take people at face-value; thus, she is prone to be suspicious when others seek her out or shower her with praises and attention especially sycophants.

          From the phlegmatic angle Mama picks being calm, easy-going and getting angry easily. She settles issues right there and then and she doesn’t hold grudges.

          She feels more emotional than she appears on the surface; she breaks into tears at the loss of loved ones, this trait was noticed when we lost one of our staff, Mr. Topozin in 2015. Mama is empathetically concerned when someone is in trouble. She is kind-hearted and sympathetic.

          You can see that she is a special breed, a very “distinctive” mother. For those of us who worked closely with her, she is a leader, a motivator, an authority in practical administration.

          She is like a book, which we consult daily in our administrative works. We thank God for her unique and impactive life. - By Mr. Ogunsanwo A.A. (V.P. Admin)